ankhorite (ankhorite) wrote in suggestions,

Reject Friending, Reject Watching - Safety and Privacy Issue

Reject Friending, Reject Watching - Safety and Privacy Issue

Short, concise description of the idea
We already can ban users from commenting in our journal, but we also need to be able to ban people from either watching our journal, or friending our journal.

Full description of the idea
I have a problem with a mildly abusive user (not enough to report for abuse) who has friended me. By friending me, they know when I've posted and they come in with anonymous posts. (I've already banned them from posting in their own name). I do not want them to have the ability to track me so easily, because it inspires them to come over and be annoying, and I do not want to be forced to take my whole journal private.

Also, I administer a closed community. A user has signed up to watch us. Because she is not a member, she cannot see any of the entries in the closed community. Our security level default is friends-only. Nonetheless, having a complete stranger listed as a "watcher" makes the community members very nervous. This is a medical support group and we don't want to share our posts with anyone.

An ordered list of benefits
  • 1. Less cyber-stalking, or at least, making cyber-stalking more difficult.
  • 2. More user control over how easily someone can read their journal entries, without being forced to go friends-only.
  • 3. A safer, more congenial environment, especially for minors being friended or watched by adult stalkers.
  • 4. LATE ADDITION: Peace of mind for users who don't want to see their stalker's name every time they open their own profile page, without having to take their entire "Friend Of" list private.
  • 5. LATE ADDITION: A way to avoid giving the false impression to other viewers of the user's profile page that the stalker really is a friend of the user, without having to take their entire "Friend Of" list private.
An ordered list of problems/issues involved
  • 1. People may get their feelings hurt when their attempt to friend or watch a journal is rejected. Some people take rejection badly. It's a trade-off between the privacy (and, for some, safety) of the rejector, and the rejector's ability to choose with whom they will associate, and the feelings of the people who are rejected.
  • 2. I don't know how difficult programming this ability will be.
  • 3. You could just require permission on all friend requests, but that would inhibit so much of what makes LJ good. That's why I suggest some way of just removing people who have friended you. Much less cumbersome.
  • 4. LATE ADDITION: firefoxfey has noted additional problems re the RSS and email notification processes; please see first comment and response below.
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